Beating the Blues
When the wedding is over, the marriage begins – a logical thought, but one that not too many brides anticipate and understand.
After months of rushing about, making and taking phone calls, sending and receiving e-mails, and planning every single detail to perfection… everything comes to a screeching halt. This can be quite an anti-climax if you are not prepared for it.
MALTA EVENT DESIGN can help!
Why do these feelings occur?
The relative calm after the tumult of preparing for the wedding, and the hubbub of the reception, is often an anti-climax. It is normal to feel at a loss with regard to how you are going to fill in your time – especially if you have taken vacation leave. Also, sharing a home when you are married, rather than simply living with your beloved, does tend to put a different perspective on things.
It has been scientifically proven that after a major life event – a goal that has been reached – the build-up of motivation, anticipation and stress disintegrates. You feel ‘deflated’, like a balloon that loses air.
You may even be wondering whether you did the right thing because your status as a married woman means you are not as footloose and fancy-free as you used to be. The minutes stretch into hours, which stretch into days. You may be feeling sad, stressed out, lonely, or even bored.
How do I deal with those feelings?
You must get used to the idea that you have entered a new phase in your life, albeit you are still the same person, with the same wants, needs, and emotions. Do not dwell on the past; focus on the future. Make plans for things you can do together with your beloved, and things you enjoy doing on your own. Be sure to get enough sleep, and eat well, because not doing so can play havoc with your health.
What can I look forward to?
- Date nights
- Decorating one’s home
- Returning to work
- Spending time with the spouse
- Starting a family
How can MALTA EVENT DESIGN help?
We are here to help to become relaxed again after your wedding.
Half a dozen things to remember…
♥ A problem shared is a problem halved; but, on the other hand, two’s company and three is a crowd. Be careful with whom you share your innermost thoughts and doubts.
♥ Broaden your horizons. Life is not just bed, work, chores and food… Make time to read a newspaper; research a topic, try some do-it-yourself, or crafts.
♥ Do not give in to pressure by your parents and in-laws with regard to having children as soon as possible, just so you can “make them grandparents”.
♥ Just because you don’t enjoy doing the housework, you are not a ‘bad wife’. Treat life as a learning curve.
♥ Remember that you have married your husband, not his family.
♥You may wish that some people behaved better, at the reception…but there is absolutely nothing that you can do about it. Don’t allow the past to drag you down.